Everything must point to God
Heb 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,
Heb 12:2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
God is a jealous God. He will not give his glory to anyone, nor his praise. Pleasing God is simple as doing as he says. But knowing what to do is not an exact science (so of speak). Transforming your thinking is not possible. You need someone greater than yourself as a guide. Using your Pastor, or any church leadership as a guide should be at a minimum and what information you get from them needs to be proven before it is embraced by you.
1Th 5:21 Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
A child of God is expected to walk in such a way that he pleases God. Pleasing God is only possible when we walk in obedience. Unfortunately we aren't aways clear about his instructions.